As a young girl, I was boy crazy. I would think a boy liked me if he offered his pencil to me to borrow. I remember the endless conversations with my girl friends about boys, boys, boys. Conversations with my friends about the opposite gender still continue to take up the most time. I would say that finding a mate is on many people’s minds, regardless of age. The reason being that everyone wants someone to love them and share their lives together. However, I find that though we can be actively seeking a mate, do we actually know the answer to the question: what do you love about yourself? If someone asked you what aspects of yourself you love, would you have a list to confidently share? If you don’t know all that you can offer to a partner, then how do you expect someone else to see all that you’re worth and appreciate it? I came across this dilemma when I met Daniel. When we met, I was smitten and thought he was such a catch. I would tell my friend SK all the wonderful things I thought about him. I remember one day she stopped me in my tracks and said, “Don’t you know you’re a catch too??” I was dumbfounded. The answer was no until at that pivotal moment, I realized, “Wow! I’m great too! I have A, B, and C to offer him.” I recognized all that I could offer Daniel, which instantly lifted my confidence in my part of the relationship. Whenever he jokes that I’m lucky to have him, I respond with, “You’re right; I am, but you’re lucky to have me too.” This renewed mentality has helped me see my value in our relationship.