genuinely happy for versus jealous of someone

If a friend shared with you how her current boyfriend sent her a box full of candy to her job, what would be your automatic response? Would you genuinely be happy for her or be jealous? When my friend shared this news with me, I was genuinely happy for her because her guy was being thoughtful, generous, and making her happy! What happens if the contrary happened and instead, my response was, “Aww wow, I’m jealous!! I wish Daniel did that for me… :(” Interestingly, I observe and am a part of this scenario a lot and find it thought-provoking. In the second instance, I’ve declared I’m jealous to my friend… how is she meant to respond? “Thanks…??” “Sorry you feel that way Reaksmey?…” Notice that the focus has now turned to me versus about my friend and her good news. Why do you think people respond this way? For me, these types of situations keep me in check. Meaning, if I find myself saying I am jealous or envious of someone, then I need to take a step back and reflect on myself. Am I missing something in my life that I need to pursue? Am I missing something from Daniel that I can potentially receive if I communicated it to him? Or, simply, maybe I don’t have what she/he has, but I have all these other things that make me happy.

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About Reaksmey

hi :) i'm reaksmey (reeks-may) and I love to think, reflect, and grow. do you? my life includes a handsome husband and a lively infant. here's where i write about how i grow through life's ups and downs so that i can humbly encourage you daily.
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