is love a choice?

I had a conversation with my friend about this the other day and it got me thinking. Before I share my thoughts, what are yours? Is love a choice?

On a different note, but related to my recent post on the beauties in every day, I went to TJMaxx last night and bought my grateful jar! It is clear, and I have begun using 1 yellow post-its to write 1 reason/person I am thankful for. I will use other post-it colors so that it fits with my living room decor. It felt so good! Let me know when you give it a try! :)

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hi :) i'm reaksmey (reeks-may) and I love to think, reflect, and grow. do you? my life includes a handsome husband and a lively infant. here's where i write about how i grow through life's ups and downs so that i can humbly encourage you daily.
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4 Responses to is love a choice?

  1. Kelly says:

    Howdy Reaksmey! I believe that love is neither an emotion or choice. God is love, and God is neither emotion nor choice. The choice aspect of love becomes apparent because Love is a deep mystery that we choose to participate in or not.

    Reaksmey Reply:

    Kelly, thanks for sharing your perspective. It reminded me that God is love. Read JK’s comment on this topic since it relates to what you shared.

  2. J. K. Shea says:

    I believe love is a choice. When Jesus was asked the greatest commandment, he said, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.'” If loving is an involuntary action, there would have been no point to what Jesus said. The best example I have seen of the choice to love was a couple I met when they were in their late 70s. When they were in their 20s, while the husband was off starting a promising career in business, the young beautiful wife wanted to do something adventurous, so she took flying lessons. On one of her solo flights, she crashed the plane and barely escaped alive. She had 3rd degree burns that left her blind, mostly deaf, and extremely disfigured. Over the next 50 years, her memory of speech deteriorated to the point that her speech is now barely intelligible. Lack of the ability to independently exercise led to obesity, diabetes, and other serious health issues, and lack of social interaction with people besides her husband led to a loss of social skills. As distant relatives who we had never met, they invited us to dinner on the sad occasion of my father’s death which happened in their city. It was obviously a rare occasion because the wife’s disabilities made it awkward and impossible for her to carry out the normal responsibilities of a hostess. We each made our own deli sandwiches and she ate her salad with her hands because she could not use utensils. She was thrilled to have guests and did her best to communicate but any elements of conversational or table etiquette were out the window. The husband lovingly did his best to help her communicate but by the end of our dinner between interpreting the conversation, helping her eat, cleaning up the very frequent messes, and trying to play the host, he couldn’t help but end the evening exhausted. The husband, now an extremely successful businessman has spent the last 50 years caring for his wife in his home when he could have easily justified the need for care in a care facility. As a matter of fact, no one would have blamed him if he had provided for her care and married someone else, because in almost every sense, she’s not the same woman he married. He chose to love. Besides the one who allowed himself to be crucified to save me, this couple is the best example of choosing to love I have ever seen. Feelings are nice, but they come and go. Choose to love and discover a deeper meaning to the word love.

    Reaksmey Reply:

    JK, thank you for reminding me Jesus’s command and also sharing the example of the couple. It encouraged me tell Daniel that I’d be by his side if something like this happened to him. In general though, it seems as though the majority of the thought from others is that love is a choice. I’d be interested to hear when someone has the contrary thought.

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