Is there such? And what does this mean? For us (more so my challenge), I would book our weekends with social gatherings. Beginning Friday after work until Sunday evening, Daniel and I would have spent time with at least 1 couple, been to 1 group party, spent 1-on-1 time together, and attend (at that time) our weekly Young Married Cafe session on Friday evenings. This was the norm in our household for a few years, namely the second and third years we were in San Diego. What can I say? I was looking to build friendships! Daniel didn’t feel the same. He’d always complain that we were too busy and that I needed to stop signing us up for too many social gatherings because it was stressing him out. (He enjoys time to read and do more introverted activities). I never listened nor understood what he meant until only recently! Poor guy. It dawned on me (organically without him telling me again), that there’s a significant benefit in not over-socializing. It meant we didn’t have to be running from one engagement to the next and participate in conversations all the time. Best of all- we had time for ourselves, each other, and just “being.” I can’t believe I used to subscribe us to such a (hectic) social life when now all I want to do is be alone or with Daniel in our cute, little house. These days we definitely are not hermit crabs, but the difference is now we are more selective on social engagements and commit to them in small quantities. I also consult with him before signing us up.