Oh… so hard to do! But at the same time, how amazing to be able to do it! During a dialogue, occurrence, or feedback session, it is natural to stand firm with your opinions and believe that your perspective is right, rational, and/or “what is he/she thinking?!” This is especially true when someone else’s perspective or action is contrary to what you believe or one that has never crossed your mind so therefore it must be wrong, inappropriate, and/or nutty. Unfortunately, the stunt in growth occurs when we do not step outside our perspective and become judgmental about or not receptive to someone else’s perspective. It takes humility, empathy, and self-control to take a step outside of our lens in an effort to try to see what the other person is trying to convey or do. If the other person is someone you respect and is rational, it may be a learning opportunity. If he/she is not, maybe you can still gain a small piece of helpful information. I believe applying this approach towards others will grow you as a person because you are able to accept that your perspective isn’t the only one, which opens the door to learning from others and having a meaningful dialogue. Also, it can help you become more empathetic to someone else’s situation and their needs and why they may think or act a particular way. Again… still so hard to do!
How do you go about doing this in your life? I’d love to hear your examples!