One of the ways I learn about myself is hearing from others how they describe me. I believe there is truth and value from others’ perceptions of us. Of course there are times when others’ perceptions are inaccurate, but today’s post focuses on the growth we can experience from others’ positive affirmations about who we are. For me, I have found it to be a beautiful learning moment when I hear directly or indirectly from someone how they would describe me. Many times it’s a new perspective of me I didn’t realize! In other words, it’s discovering a part of me I didn’t know or could articulate. The fascinating part is that I’ve always been that person they are describing. However, it’s only once someone confirms it that somehow it becomes a permanent stamp of who I am. For example, different people have used the following words and phrases to describe me: spark plug, encourager, perfect for a sales role, inspirational, and having a beautiful heart. Again, what’s interesting is I would never know this about myself unless someone had told me. (Sometimes it takes multiple people to say it before I believe it). When I hear their positive descriptions, I take time to reflect on its meaning, determine if I believe it fits with who I am, and then if it’s all a green light, I own the description. Meaning, it becomes a description of myself I use and internalize. It actually makes me grow into myself because I’ve moved a step further towards getting to know myself (through others’ accurate perceptions of me).
What’s something new about yourself that you learned through others’ positive affirmations? Why do you think it takes hearing it from others do we own the affirmation?