too busy

How truly busy are you? I have become one of those people who will continually say to others, “We’re so busy; let me check our calendars…” or “I need to go, I’m busy right now.” And the reality is that my time is being spent doing something; I’m definitely not lying. However, the question is, “What am I busy doing?”; “Is what I’m doing more important than making time for friends and family?”; “Is what I’m filling my time with well-spent and a value of mine?” I don’t give these questions much thought as time flies by and our schedules fill up. Daniel and I have grown to be more mindful of selecting social gatherings and volunteer commitments of value to us, but still… I still catch myself saying I am too busy to loved ones. This all leads me to a recent article my friend shared with me: The ‘Busy’ Trap. I highly encourage you to read this. It paints a true perspective about our busy lives and the choices we make to be “too busy” when in reality we can achieve happiness by another (less busy) approach. After reading the article it made me want to pack my bags and move to a small remote community. I know it sounds drastic, but it’s based on my belief that a simple life spent carefully with the people that matter and doing the things that matter is what I want to say I’ve lived when I am on my death bed. After you read the article, please let us know what you think!

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About Reaksmey

hi :) i'm reaksmey (reeks-may) and I love to think, reflect, and grow. do you? my life includes a handsome husband and a lively infant. here's where i write about how i grow through life's ups and downs so that i can humbly encourage you daily.
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3 Responses to too busy

  1. sdbeachgirl says:

    Excellent article Reaksmey!  Great food for thought today :)

    Reaksmey Reply:

    I’m so glad to hear! Have you done anything different or changed your perspective since reading the article?

  2. AstridKurniawan says:

    I love this article suggestion.  You know my position well in this, that people choose priorities, they’re not obliged by them.  I especially love the part when they discussed “It’s almost always people whose lamented busyness is purely self-imposed: work and obligations they’ve taken on voluntarily, classes and activities they’ve “encouraged” their kids to participate in. They’re busy because of their own ambition or drive or anxiety, because they’re addicted to busyness and dread what they might have to face in its absence.”  It resounded so well with what my original belief about busy-ness.  
     
    Personally, I am working on being less busy, doing the least amount of work possible so I can focus on things that matter to me that are mutually reciprocated.  Knowing what my priorities are have been truly helpful in my being able to say “no” to more work, “no” to last minute “urgencies (that aren’t even really urgent- no one is dying)”.  I am beginning to draw a thick boundary line per se, and not feeling bad that I cannot fulfill an obligation that to me isn’t even that important to begin with.  We are so guilt ridden about this (I know I’ve been in this position before), but I’m working on letting my inner child have these relaxing times more often and denying her less and less unstructured play time.  

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