Do you try to employ this in your life regularly? In other words, do you take the time to note the good in someone and encourage it? I ask this because you have the daily choice to make others feel encouraged or discouraged about who they are. I choose to encourage others by bringing out the best in them, or at least I try. I go about this is by: getting to know the person, noting at least one good thing I appreciate about him/her, highlighting it to the person, and then continually encouraging it. For example, if I discover that a friend is very thoughtful, I always remind her of this beautiful quality I observe followed by some examples. Or, if a friend offers great interior designing advice, I let her know of her unique abilities in this area. I intentionally share these observations and thoughts with my friends, and strangers, in hopes that it will bring awareness to them and affirm that good quality about them. Of course it’s easier to highlight good in pleasant people, but it’s also important to do so with difficult people. Namely with difficult people, instead of focusing on their flaws, why not try your hardest to find one good thing he/she does and encourage that behavior or effort instead? That way it may relieve you of the negative feelings you have towards the person and you are helping the other person see the good inside of them. Regardless of whether you are dealing with a pleasant or difficult person, I encourage you to bring out the best in others. Remember what Mother Teresa said, “People won’t remember what you said. But, people will remember how you made them feel.”
How do you go about bringing out the best in others? Share an example of the impact it made in someone’s life.