One thing for sure that comes with becoming a mom is unsolicited advice. People love to share their experiences, wisdom, and what you should and shouldn’t do. It was an overwhelming discovery for me because I found the missing component to all of it was empowerment. In other words, it was as if as a new mom, (I felt) the assumption was that I didn’t know what I was doing and needed to be told what I must not know. My own research or innate ability to mother were never inquired about or encouraged. Overtime I have found that some of the advice and people’s sharing of their experiences have turned out to be helpful. I finally got to this point when I realized that I was always open to hearing what others had to say, it just had to correlate with where I was in the process of my pregnancy or having a newborn. So in other words, when someone met me where I was, and shared according to my specific questions or situation related to where I was in my journey, I valued their insights a lot more and learned a great deal from their wisdom and knowledge. This brings me to my past post of meeting someone where they are and encourage you to do so because effective learning and meaningful connections are more likely to take place as a result.