the need to grieve

Everything and everyone comes to an end. I know that sounds morbid, but it’s the reality. When I write about grieving in this post, my shift in focus is on grieving when something comes to an end, not when someone passes on. We all know that it’s necessary to grieve when someone leaves this world, but have you thought about the need to grieve before or while you enter a new life, new relationship, or new something? Currently, I am grieving my pre-baby life, when I was independent, social, and working. People say when your new baby is in your life, you forget how life was before him/her. I was asked that question yesterday and my answer was, “Oh, I definitely remember!” :) I love the little man and I wouldn’t ever go back to pre-baby life, but there are definitely days/moments when I throw up my hands and say, “This gig is not for me! I want to go back to work.” Like last night, I hit my second moment of tears over motherhood. In my moment of despair and exhaustion, I became a “Negative Nancy.” Nothing anyone could say or do, and anything I looked at and thought about were negative. I couldn’t help myself. And here I write a blog that promotes positivity and it’s one of my Top 5 Strengths, but yet I was swimming in negativity. So I had to remind myself, “this will pass,” and hopefully today will be a better day. Another example of this I see a lot is when someone is in an unhealthy relationship and it takes them awhile to walk away. While they are in it, they are grieving. So when they walk away, they are done and ready to enter into a new relationship quicker than others would expect. (Kind of also like walking away from an unhealthy work environment). Thus, I write about grieving in this context because my guess is we all have had to grieve something. Being aware of this healthy need and honoring it helps me as my emotions and thoughts go for a crazy ride during this process.

Is there anything you have to still grieve? Do you have wisdom on how I can grieve better, if there’s such a thing?

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hi :) i'm reaksmey (reeks-may) and I love to think, reflect, and grow. do you? my life includes a handsome husband and a lively infant. here's where i write about how i grow through life's ups and downs so that i can humbly encourage you daily.
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One Response to the need to grieve

  1. Kelly says:

    You are right, we all have something to grieve at times, and the griefs change as we grow. For me, I have found that best way to grieve is to grieve. Don’t try to force yourself out of the process; it’ll happen naturally. I think negativity and grieving are different things even though they can look the same when someone is emotional. Grief can only pass/be redeemed/be transformed if you allow it to take place.

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