In life, I am blessed to accrue meaningful friendships, belong to loving families, and/or come across people that touch me in positive ways. Once they’re in my life, it’s as if I take them for granted when we get together and share memories because the focus is more on finding time in our schedules to meet up and when we finally do, we breathe a “phew” and quickly the time passes. What I discovered that was missing is the opportunity to share with others how I felt about them and our meetings. Let me explain further. In the past, I used to subscribe to what I just described. My friend and I would try to get together, sometimes there were cancellations, and finally, we would make it happen. We’d spend hours catching up, just “being,” then walk away into our busy lives again. The difference now is, leading up to our get together, I share that “I am looking forward to getting together and seeing you.” Or, I throw in a “I’ve missed you! I can’t wait to see you!” When we’re together I might say the same phrases to seize the opportunity to share my feelings in person. Then afterwards, I’d share, “I loved seeing you and enjoyed spending time with you,” and/or “I’m so thankful for your friendship!” Other ways I share positive feelings with others is by letting a friend know why I appreciate and love them. I know this may sound like a “duh! encouragement,” but to me it isn’t because I find too often we either assume the other person knows, we overlook it amidst our busyness, and/or we’ve never thought to verbalize it. So now I make a conscious effort to do so, and encourage you to do so as well. And one more thing to think about- when someone you like/love calls you, lifting up your tone and energy lets the other person know you are excited to speak to them. I know for me, sometimes (or most of the time), I’m distracted when I pick up the phone and I sound blah or neutral when I say hello when really I am glad the person called. These are some things to think about!
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