I’m glad to say the friends I have now and I share many beautiful conversations. Our talks include updates on our lives, reflections, challenges, advice, comforting, encouragement, and the like. Rarely are our conversations about surface level topics or talking negatively about others. (Of course there are times we need insight and to vent about challenging people). When thinking about my current friendship conversation topics, and comparing it to the ones I had with former girl friends, I realize back then that our time spent together were not meaningful. Instead, we’d sit around a kitchen table gossiping about others who if they were there, would not be happy. I never felt right about it and knew it wasn’t my cup of tea, but didn’t have the strength and skills to walk away. Now I do and the interesting, great thing about my friends presently is when I even slightly want to visit the venting/ gossip side of talking about someone who isn’t present, my friends will nip it in the bud, encourage me to see a different perspective about the person, challenge me to grow and love him/her, and/or listen to me vent but then move onto a new subject. I love this about them! This encourages me to be a better person and friend, and our conversations are richer and are focused on one another versus other people!
I encourage you to notice the content of the conversations you have with your friends. Is the content helping you both learn more about each other and positively impacting one another?