date day or night

I know and have been told it’s important to have date night with my hubby. But as with everything, I know it’s important, but do I follow-through on it? :) It is easy to forget that Daniel and I need to spend quality ALONE time without Z-man. And, further, when spending time together, to NOT talk about the cutie pie. It’s hard, especially since I spend 24-7 with him and there’s a lot to catch Daniel up on. But like everything, speaking about a topic too much can be a damper on a conversation and not allow other fruitful discussions to encourage growth and connection. I am thankful that although it has not been my top priority to find date time with Daniel, others in my life are huge encouragers of it! They know now in hindsight how much it is a necessity to maintain one’s marriage in order for the household to be rich and healthy. I think this is the part that goes missing sometimes- the fact that Daniel and I started as a love unit first before Zane entered the picture. My neighbor is so adamant about us working on our marriage that even she has told us numerous times that she will watch Zane at no cost as long as we go do something together. She shared that one of the reasons her marriage dissolved was because when their son entered their lives, all discussions, thoughts, and activities were focused on him. Over time, without maintaining or even focusing on their marriage, they grew a part. By the time he was in his teenage years, they were no longer a couple but rather two individuals raising a child and living together. Her reflection on it is now in turn her wisdom for Daniel and I and her way to serve us so that we do not end up like her. So tonight Daniel and I will head out to enjoy some time together. We have no idea what we’ll do, but in Daniel’s sweet words, “as long as we’re in each others’ company, that’s all that matters.” :) So no need for me to coordinate a fancy plan; I think if we’re by the beach watching the waves and eating hole-in-the-wall take-out food, these love birds will be happy. Thanks GJ for watching Z tonight!

So if possible, go have date time! If no one will watch your child, re-create the scene at home. If you don’t have a kiddo, enjoy your time even more because you do not have an additional responsibility!

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About Reaksmey

hi :) i'm reaksmey (reeks-may) and I love to think, reflect, and grow. do you? my life includes a handsome husband and a lively infant. here's where i write about how i grow through life's ups and downs so that i can humbly encourage you daily.
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3 Responses to date day or night

  1. Amy says:

    Yay, Reaksmey! I hope you and Daniel found the time alone refreshing. Even though we don’t have a child yet, we have found that getting away from boarding school life even for a few hours can make a huge difference in our marriage and overall well-being. Keep it up!

  2. J. K. says:

    I agree. When I was growing up, my parents told us, “the only people your Mommy and Daddy love more than you kids are eachother.” While it sounds mean and unnecessary to tell your kids they are number 2, the reason they did was because they knew it would create security, and it was foundational to our family life. Also, after they would have an argument they would always tell us, “Even though Mommy and Daddy disagree right now we will always love eachother and always be together.”

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