I am still learning that not everyone thinks and acts like me. I know it may sound silly, but seriously, we judge others based on how we think they should think and act. When someone does not show appreciation the way I think they should or someone spends their money differently, I am quick to judge. I have to be reminded by my friends that although we are similar (my friends and I), we are our own group of like-minded people. Outside our social bubble, people are going to be different from us… and that’s okay. We need to have grace towards others and have mercy on them, even if they are guilty, undeserving, or just plain mean. For example, I don’t understand why people have road rage. There’s really no point because you can’t get out of your car and yell at the person. Nor can I understand when someone driving is rude and cuts the traffic line or cuts me off. Where’s the fire?! Because I sure don’t see it. Or even further, when you’re trying to be nice and let someone in and they don’t say thank you!! All these instances do not make me a happy camper. BUT, I choose not to get mad because first off- I can’t control their actions, only my own. Secondly, what’s the point of wasting my energy letting a stranger upset me? Yes I can think they’re reckless and an idiot, but that’s as far as I’ll let it go. I remind myself that “not everyone is like me” in regards to my attitude about driving and being kind and safe to others on the road. Another example is with writing messages in cards. I was talking with a friend about how I find it a waste of money when people just sign their names in a card. I’d much rather they hand make me one or write a few more words. Her point, which I appreciated was, some people can’t find the words to write and rather, they’ve found a card to say it all. Simple, but brilliant response. Why did I need to judge someone else’s approach, but rather, why couldn’t I remember that “not everyone is like me?”
Do you have challenges with this filter as well? Do you get surprised, disappointed, upset, judgmental when someone doesn’t act or think as you do?