Whenever I enter a new phase of my life, I find there’s a need to meet new friends who are within that circle, or life phase too. This was the case transitioning from being single to living with Daniel. We found we had to find other couple friends to do things with. This is always tricky because both couples have to like and enjoy each others’ company. Since this exploration, we have only found a handful that we love being with. Unfortunately what also happens in this phase is spending less time with others who are single. I had to carve out a separate time for these ladies that organically over time those friendships dwindled. Now as a SAHM, I am seeking a new circle of girl friends. I have friends who have older kiddos, but I have to face my need for girl friends who have their first child around Zane’s age. Up until this point I clutched onto the different circle of friends I have (retired friends, friends with flexible work schedules, friends who don’t work, other SAHMs with older kids, etc.) because it required less work. The time finally came the other day for me to spread my wings and put on my friend-making hat. I know you may be thinking, “But you make friends so easily! This is nothing for you.” And to some extent it’s true… but the fact of the matter is that it takes work and I just wanted to be comfortable with my circle of friends. So I visited Meetup.com (for the second or third time) and finally joined a few groups that looked good. (In the past I hesitated because I always had a negative perception of what these groups would look like. Endless chatter about babies and mothers obsessing about their child). I visited my first Meetup yesterday and was pleasantly surprised to meet some moms who were down-to-earth, wanted to get to know me, and were kind!! I have another one today with a different group of ladies. I’m hoping it goes well.
My encouragement to you is to find different circles of friends to fulfill your connection needs. And to step outside your comfort zone because what awaits outside of it may be more than you thought.