When I think of “growing into myself,” I would never have thought it would involve becoming more like Daniel. Up until this point, I respected, appreciated, and teased Daniel for how he goes about things. Meaning, he is a creature of habit- only goes about completing things in the most efficient manner, analyzes everything, is very task-oriented, and is go-go-go. I see how his ways are better than mine, but at the same time remained the way I am because I thought, “This is me. It’s not bad. It works for me. I don’t want to be like him.” Interestingly though, in many ways I am like him in the professional world, but when at home, those parts of me similar him somehow vanish. So whenever Daniel encourages me to change my ways so that I can be more productive and effective, I always tell him, “I know what you mean- that’s how I am at work! But at home, I do not want to be like you. I like doing things on my time, when I feel like it. It always all gets done.” In response, he’d say, “Well, bring that part of you home. I will be happier and so will you.” After fighting it for so long, I am committing to be more like him! He is the type who puts all his belongings in the same place, whereas mine are scattered all over and are never in the same place. (We have many scavenger hunts for my things). Also, when he awakes, his routine every single day is the same. I, on the other hand, never have a morning routine. I do whatever I feel like that morning. However, after staying home for a little over a year now, I have concluded that the parts of Daniel that works for me need to be woven into my daily life. I need to have a routine, to plan my day better, to use my time more wisely, etc. I am already implementing some of it and am feeling great! Again, I never thought this day would come where I am becoming more like Daniel! 😉
I bet your partner has amazing characteristics/ habits that you respect and appreciate. Have you thought about employing them and becoming more him him/her? Maybe it will help you grow more into yourself!