I love Craigslist. It has worked out very well for me/us. Heck, I love all avenues for selling my things and clothes. It has been the only way I can buy new clothes, accessories, and furnish my house. Without it, I’d be without and I definitely would need to go to work to bring in extra money. With Spring here, I am motivated to do Spring cleaning. Today I sold some household things on Craigslist. My new favorite approach that Daniel suggested to me is up selling once the person is at our house and it has worked magic! Like today, the woman bought three additional items and I made over double what she intended to pay me. I titled this post as such because the items individually cost less than $15. But times it by five and I quickly made a chunk of change within minutes that will allow me to buy something new and relevant. This particular transaction was even better because we didn’t even pay for the items and they were all collecting dust! All this selling and accruing money to save for future purchases makes me very happy and accomplished. I completely understand I am my own breed when it comes to this interest. As I was talking with Daniel about low amount purchases (and in this case sales) all adding up to a decent amount of cash, we reflected on how it dovetails with our upbringing of not having much money. Being poor growing up, I’ve learned to be resourceful and frugal so that I can buy quality items that I desire. Many may think it is nutty, and for most it is, but since it comes naturally to me, I am thankful I can enjoy nice things and not be in debt. And (to some degree) fall somewhere close to my shopping budget. ; ) So I write this for three reasons. Everything you buy or sell adds up; it is just a matter of whether you are knowledgeable about the total. My friend the other day shared that her husband stresses about the big ticket items they purchase, but isn’t knowledgeable about how much his daily lunch spendings five days a week, times 20 work days equal well over $100/month! I know I’d rather spend that on a nice handbag on sale and bring leftovers from last night’s dinner!! ; ) My second point is whether you care about your spendings. If money is not an issue or you never lived without, this whole post may not be of interest to you. And lastly, I encourage you to not judge others based on your values about money and spending habits. I am guilty of this a lot! I have to remind myself that I bet if I knew that person’s story, their spending ways would make sense! This is the personal work I am in progress with- why do I love spending money unnecessarily and not giving more?!
How/where do you see yourself in this post?
It is true what they say; when you have a kid, the days are long and the years are short. It is already mid-April and Zane is nearly a year-and-a-half! I can’t seem to catch up because I am going from one thing to the next, preparing for something in the near future, completing tasks, and oh yeah-can’t forget to feed the family! Needless to say, my mind is running at top speed with thoughts and my body is always on the go. And lately with Zane now onto a potential new sickness of hand, foot, and mouth disease, and Daniel under the weather more than me, it seems to never end. I am forced, or shall I say ‘given an opportunity’ to practice grace, patience, serving, and selflessness? With all this and more going on, I feel more than ever to quiet my mind by quieting my daily things to do. I love to fill my days with play dates and errands so that it gives me a break from Zane being all over me at home and for Zane to explore. However, today we just stayed in after visiting the doctor’s office. Aside from the fact that I don’t want to spread his germs to other young kids, I need us to chill out on our own. This will allow me to quiet my mind because I am not busy trying to socialize with a friend and watch Zane. It is day one of this and I am feeling better and very peaceful amidst taking care of two babies, . Both are sleeping now as I get to be still, be quiet, and in this moment, blog. How beautiful. Earlier in the day I had a chance to read a Christian mommy newsletter that helped encourage me and bring me back to my faith roots and the purpose of motherhood. I hope in the days to come I will make time to listen for God’s voice, wisdom, and guidance. Oh how I miss hearing it because my life and mind are so busy…
How do you find time and go about quieting your mind so you can hear?
I can’t believe I have not been a full-time professional for almost a year-and-a-half! I feel like I’ve adapted a lot more to this new full-time stay-at-home mom role and it would feel weirder to go to work outside the home than to stay with Zane. Yay for finally arriving at these feelings! When I do think back on my work experience, I think mostly of the donors and clients/ professionals I came across. Further, I think about the relationships I created with many of them learning about each others’ lives and personal matters. And how we connected and enjoyed each others’ company over food and drinks. Then I get sad because many, if not all, of those relationships do not exist anymore. I can definitely take responsibility for not keeping in touch and although sometimes I want to, I refrain knowing how tough it is already for me to maintain my current friendships in my personal life. But then there are a few I actually tried to keep in touch with by suggesting we get together. Sadly, I got met with no reply. If not getting together, the fact that keeping in contact via “how are you?” doesn’t take place sends me wondering. I share all this because it does make me wonder! I understand the point of building relationships in the professional world. That’s how significant business transactions happen and strategic and effective partnerships are created. And for my past job, it was an opportunity to engage donors and receive financial and resourceful support of our initiatives and programs. Unfortunately, the way things have fanned out in this department makes me look at how my future professional relationships will be formed. Of course I will still be me and genuinely care, but expecting or even hoping a true relationship can continue outside the business world, especially if I am not professionally part of that field anymore, would be naive. Having this expectation and wisdom will leave me less hurt in the future when I can walk away from a professional relationship, and although it was meaningful, can say it was “strictly business.”
How do you go about building, reflecting, and walking away from professional relationships?